Okay, he proposed...great! But, how well do you know him? Have you done your homework? You may be one who has found a match and you're getting married six months later or you may have dated for six years and think you know him all too well. Do you really? I suggest you run a background check on your soon to be spouse as soon as possible, no matter how much you think you know him or how long you've dated.
A young lady in Michigan was dating the perfect guy. He showered her with expensive jewelry (you know we all love this as women) on a whim. You know, just because. They went to exclusive restaurants and took many lavish trips. One day, at one of these exclusive restaurants, the 'man of her dreams' paid the bill with a credit card. They both noticed the waitress absense with the card was extensive. When the waitress returned with the card, she wasn't alone. In her absense, she called the local authorities to report the credit card as stolen because it appeared in the system as such. Consequently, the man of her dreams was part of an identity theft ring and this wasn't his first offense. Had she done a background check...she would have been spared a bit of embarrassment. Tnank goodness she didn't marry him!
There are things you need to know, especially if you're engaged with children. These are questions you need to find answers to:
Is he a registered sex offender? - Time and time again women have fallen into this trap. Unfortunately, many of these women find out the man's past and do nothing about it. If he is registered, find out what the charge is and how serious it is. In some cases, young men who are 18 date their high school sweet heart who is 16. These men unfortunately land a sex offender case for being with a minor and it ruins their record. So, dig deep and find out what really went on.
Is she a felon? - This is something you really need to know. This could affect finances, as many felons have job restrictions.
Is he really 40? - Many people lie about their age for fear of rejection. Find out if he is really the age he says he is. This could open a can of worms to all the other things he could be untruthful about. Remember, if he lies about this...what else is he lying about?
Is her divorce final? - Have you ever known a couple that claims divorce, but, they're only separated. Before you take a step further, request to see her divorce decree. If she refuses or 'conveniently forgets', go to the state to look up the filing. This is public record.
You can get some of this information for free at abika.com. For a more intense screening, try Best Background Checks. Charges may apply for more detail screenings.